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None to Blame

When my late husband R’s  parents were alive, we took his yearly break to spend time with them. Meal times was a source of constant embarrassment for me. Our young children would need to go to the loo. Grandma didn’t like it. She blamed me for their indiscretions. You can’t tell toddlers that this wasn’t the time to announce what they needed to do when everybody was sitting having dinner. 

R had drilled it into me from day one of marriage, that no one was to blame except me if the children didn’t turn out alright. I was on tenterhooks about their grades, and manners, while the children were growing up. To make matters worse, I was sole parent most of the times. I had to be forever vigilant about everything. 

During once a year visits, daughter blames me when her kids throw a tantrum. “Mama, what kind of grand children have you produced?”

Tell me what did I do?



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My Emblem

Daily Prompt: Object Lesson
Sherlock Holmes had his pipe. Dorothy had her shoes. Batman had his Batmobile. If we asked your friends what object they most immediately associate with you, what would they answer?


I am known as, “The Umbrella Lady.” I carry an umbrella around with me. I am prone to acute sunburn. I am sure at some point in life you did get a sunburn, and how terrible it was. I envy other people who have no such problem

If you see my nose its’ top end surface looks burnt, whether I carry an umbrella or not.

I used to go out in the sun without any protection. I don’t use makeup. That offers a protection against the sun. I was so naive. When I was younger, or say my skin was younger, it didn’t matter to me. My face, neck would get sunburnt, but I would recover within two-three days.

Then my skin lost its ability to heal. I noticed black, burnt patches on my neck. I didn’t have any clue. I was so un-observant. I can kick myself for it.
Secretions oozed out from my cheeks and nose surface. That was when I realized something was terribly amiss.

A visit to the dermatologist revealed what had happened to my skin. My skin took a while to heal. I used sunblock (SPF 60) after that. I have noticed sometimes even that is not enough.

Now I have turned vigilant. When I step out, I use sunblock, and an umbrella.

My son laughs at me. He calls umbrella “Mama’s Symbol.”

My Emblem